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爱有千千面
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什么是爱？许多人分享了他们对爱的理解，至少是他们眼里的爱。或许爱只是个幻像。一个强烈的幻像，尤其是对于那些寻求生活目标的人。爱是答案吗？爱可能很精彩，很特别，很复杂，爱可能是一种痛苦，一件礼物，一重诅咒，一个悲剧，最有可能是一种经历。
爱是一股神秘而复杂的力量。一个人爱上别人意味着什么？爱意不同。每个人都有自己对爱的理解，多数情况下爱的定义基于我们爱的情感和经历。书本对爱的定义也不尽相同。“爱是由于亲属或其它私人关系而产生的一种强烈的喜爱之情。”爱可能是相爱的人感受到的一种爱慕，和善和温柔，那种一触就痛的感觉。爱是依恋，是忠诚，或是钦佩。
正当我们认为自己最终理解了爱是什么时，有人问：“有人知道爱真正意味着什么吗？我认为自己找到了真爱，但真爱是伤人的，对吗？”
我苦苦思索，开始疑惑。答案应该是什么？“我必须要弄明白！”我自言自语。揽镜自问：“当你想和一个特别的人共度余生时，这是真爱吗？当我们准备好了把自己的一切都给予对方时，或许发展到为了所爱而牺牲自己时，我们到达了真爱阶段了吗？爱是痴迷吗？那可能吗？”
“但爱应是痴迷吗？如果不是，就得有个理性解释。如果能够理性解释，那就不是爱，因为总会有更好的解释。”
“我认为相爱阶段是痴迷，但按照威廉姆森的说法（加上我微不足道的经历），爱不包括自己，而是无私，是痴迷的反面。”
但按照《爱的回归》作者玛丽安娜威廉姆森的说法，有一种神圣的爱，一种特别的爱。“特别的爱就是痴迷，发现一个特别的人吸引了你所有的注意力。”
因此，关于爱谁对谁错呢？没有一个答案是错的。爱很精彩。爱不一定总能成功，但爱给你一种特别的感觉，一种意想不到的感觉。爱是生活目标吗？我认为没有爱我们的生活会乏味。爱很必要很重要吗？爱是生活的一部分，爱将永远是我们的一部分。
爱不是自己幸福而是让别人幸福。 无名氏
我们的心是为爱创造的。 E.阿蒂恩萨
爱像过山车，有起也有伏。
爱不能使地球旋转，但能使这次旅途有价值。 无名氏
金钱买来的是性，不是爱。 西蒙.温罗伯
越迫切得到自己真爱的人，你对真爱的理解越深。 土田友美
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