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镜子,镜子,我看到了什么
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一个充满友爱的人生活在充满友爱的世界，一个充满敌意的人生活在充满敌意的世界，你遇到的每个人都是你的镜子。
镜子有一种非常特殊的功能。能够反射面前的影像。正如物质的反射一样，我们周围的人也可以看作反射工具。
当我们看见美好事物时，比如一个美丽的花园，那花园就是一面镜子。为了看清眼前的美，我们必须有看到内在美的能力。我们爱一个人，那是爱自己的映像。我们经常听到有人这样说：“我喜欢和那个人在一起时的自己。”这句话可以简单地翻译成“当我爱那个人时，我才爱自己。”我们常常遇到陌生人，却感觉一见如故。有时感觉我们好像相识很久了，这种感觉来自于双方共有的相似点。
正如一面镜子或一个人可以反射出积极的映像一样，很有可能当它有消极含义时，我们也能注意到。例如，当我们遇到不太喜欢的人时，倒很容易记住那些时刻。当我们结识不愿与之相处的人时，也容易记住。
非常有讽刺性的是，当我们频繁地不喜欢别人身上的某些品质时，这通常是一面反射自己的镜子。
每次遇到一个自己不太喜欢的人，我都会反躬自问：“我不喜欢那个人的哪些地方？”接下来问：“自己身上有类似的地方吗？”每次扣问，我都能从自己身上找到一条类似的品质，有时我变得非常好反醒自己。这意味着什么？
这意味着当我们发现别人身上有些方面让我们感到讨厌受到惊扰时，最好反醒一下自己，考虑改变自己的那些品质。即使不想做极端的改变，至少也要考虑一下我们正在做的事情中可以有哪些改进的方面。
有时我们见到一个人会觉得很疏远，毫不相关，甚至有点讨厌。虽然我们不愿相信，可做出深层反思既不容易也不情愿。弄明白这个人身上哪些地方是自己的映像非常有益。这正是产生强烈的自我意识的另一种方法。
附：原文
Mirror, Mirror---What do I See?
A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.
Mirrors have a very particular function. They reflect the image in front of them. Just as a physical mirror serves as the vehicle to reflection, so do all of the people in our lives.
When we see something beautiful such as a flower garden, that garden serves as a reflection. In order to see the beauty in front of us, we must be able to see the beauty inside of ourselves. When we love someone, it’s a reflection of loving ourselves. We have often heard things like “I love how I am when I’m with that person.” That simply translates into “I’m able to love me when I love that other person.” Oftentimes, when we meet someone new, we feel as though we “click”. Sometimes it’s as if we’ve known each other for a long time. That feeling can come from sharing similarities.
Just as the “mirror” or other person can be a positive reflection, it is more likely that we’ll notice it when it has a negative connotation. For example, it’s easy to remember times when we have met someone we’re not particularly crazy about. We may have some criticism in our mind about the person. This is especially true when we get to know someone with whom we would rather spend less time.
Frequently, when we dislike qualities in other people, ironically, it’s usually the mirror that’s speaking to us.
I began questioning myself further each time I encountered someone that I didn’t particularly like. Each time, I asked myself, “What is it about that person that I don’t like?” and then “Is there something similar in me?” in every instance, I could see a piece of that quality in me, and sometimes I had to really get very introspective. So what did that mean?
It means that just as I can get annoyed or disturbed when I notice that aspect in someone else, I better reexamine my qualities and consider making some changes. Even if I’m not willing to make a drastic change, at least I consider how I might modify some of the things that I’m doing.
At times we meet someone new and feel distant, disconnected, or disgusted. Although we don’t want to believe it, and it’s not easy or desirable to look further, it can be a great learning lesson to figure out what part of the person is being reflected in you. It’s simply just another way to create more self-awareness.
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