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男人比女人更浪漫 荷叶/译
我们通常把浪漫定义为女性专用的措辞，送鲜花，送贺卡，在盒子里，剪贴薄里存放纪念品，热衷于谈论少男少女浪漫的影片，或终日聆听浪漫歌曲。
也许男人不做这些，但许多男人所做的要把这一切都浪漫，他们把爱永驻心间。
我在世界范围调查了试图复婚的三千男女。我问：“你从失恋中走出来花了多少时间？”来自男人的回答表明，他们所用的时间要明显超过女人。一些男人对调查选项不满意，最后一个选项是“超过十年”。只有男人划掉选项，写到“我永远走不出她。”当然毫无疑问女性也有不能从失恋中恢复常态的，但只有男人在调查表中填写了这样的评语。
人们通常认为青春期的男孩不会为失恋而哭泣。但这次调查中有许多男性参与者反映，在高中女友与他们分手后，他们每晚都偷偷地哭，哭了几个月。
关于复婚男性浪漫的调研与从没尝试过要复婚的那些成年男子的调查同时进行。很明显选择填这个表格的男性要多于女性，他们表达了对初恋情人的强烈的感情，即使他们再也没有和那些女人联系过（可能永远也不会再去联系）。
我网站（Lostlovers.com）留言板上的跟帖女性要多于男性。但表象往往误导人。实际上，我网站的男性会员要多于女性。男性不像女性那样频繁跟帖，但他们在读帖。
经常有更多的男性签约接受电话咨询，主题是谈论他们的失恋。
但几乎没有男性杂志印刷爱情和浪漫故事。编辑们认为男人对此不会感兴趣。不是这样的！当花花公子杂志引用了我的调查结果时，引起了很大反响。
在一些期待浪漫的场合，比如情人节，生日，纪念日，记住要把行为和感情区分开。男人可能不去制作爱情历程的纪念薄，但他们在恋爱的忠诚与浪漫方面绝不亚于女性，有时甚至超过女性。
附：原文
We too often define "romantic" in women's terms - sending flowers and cards, saving mementos and putting them in a box or scrapbook, gushing over chick romance movies, or listening to romantic songs all day. Men may not do these things, but many men do something more romantic than all that: they keep their love in their hearts forever. My survey of 3000 men and women worldwide who tried reunions with lost loves asked, "How long did it take for you to get over your lost love?" Responses from the men indicated that they took significantly longer to get over their lost loves than the women. Some of the men were not satisfied with the survey choices: the last choice listed was, "Over 10 years." Only men crossed out all the choices and wrote, "I never got over her!" While no doubt some women never got over their lost loves, either, only men wrote this comment on the survey. Adolescent boys are "not supposed" to cry over lost loves. But many of my male participants reported that, after their high school girlfriends broke up with them, they cried in private, every night, for months. My lost love reunion findings about romantic men paralleled results of my survey of adults who never tried lost love reunions. There were significantly more men than women who chose to fill out the survey, and they expressed strong feelings for their first loves, even though they had not contacted these women (and may never do so). Posts on the Message Board of my web site, Lostlovers.com, are more represented by women than men. But appearances are misleading. Actually, there are more men who are members of my site than women. The men don't post as often as the women, but they are reading! Men more often sign up for private phone consultations to talk about their lost loves than women. But it is a rare men's magazine that will print a story about love and romance. The editors tell me that they think men are uninterested. Not so! When my research was quoted in Playboy, it generated a lot of responses. On occasions where romance is expected (such as Valentine's Day, birthdays or anniversaries), we should all remember to separate emotions from behaviors. Men may not make scrapbooks of mementos of their love experiences, but they are every bit as loving, loyal, and yes, romantic, as women - and sometimes more so! | 
发表于 2013-9-19 05:19:32
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