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结婚誓言也需要更新换代
我和丈夫今秋就结婚十年了，我认为我们是时候该许下些新的结婚誓言了。
我们对于不管贫穷还是富有，疾病还是健康，都不离不弃，做得已经相当不错。在我们关系步入新的阶段之时，我们不想再重复那些已经实现的誓言，而是想许下些新的诺言。
下面是一些示例：
我会尽可能地经常修剪鼻毛。
我不会在公共场合揩鼻涕或抓屁股。
你若不挠我脚趾，我不会咬自己指甲。
你若不提我的灰发，我不会提你的大肚皮。
我会和你合用一条毯子。
经过十多年的共同生活，有些习惯真得变得很恼人。这些习惯记忆起来很难，却确实有一段时间，它们不是阻我入睡，而是助我酣眠。
现在不仅仅是身体上的习惯折磨对方的神经，我们的语言习惯有时也令人沮丧。例如，我丈夫是个非常有趣的人，他言辞乏味时除外。
因此，还得增加几条誓言：
只讲我认为有趣的笑话。
如果你在我读书时不和我说话，我就在你看“食神”时不和你说话。
我答应除非万不得以（包括想知道你把巧克力放在哪儿了）不打断你说话。
如果不知道全部歌词，我不会再唱歌了。
我会努力控制自己从一个屋向另一个屋大声喊叫，除非我在卫生间，需要更多卫生纸时，或我在卧室不知早饭吃什么时，或我在看电视，你在玩游戏时。
当我们步入婚姻的第二个十年之际，我俩都将是四十多岁的人了，而不仅仅是三十多岁。我们一些曾经迷人的习性，现在已经更像性格缺陷了。我们双方都变了，但不一定是朝着我们所想象或希望的方向转变。
同时，还有些双方没有明确承认但都默许的契约。这些契约包括：
我会说“我错了，你做得对。”
我会定期提醒你：你为什么娶我，我为什么嫁给你。
我会当你崩溃时保持坚强，只有当你足够坚强时，才能崩溃。
随着我们日渐老去，我们希望自己随着年龄的增长而成熟起来。要学会热爱，尊重和珍惜自己，要努力抓牢守好自己的钱。
随着婚龄的增长，我们比以往任何时候更加难以抛弃其它分心的事情（孩子，工作和互联网）而重视我们的伴侣。我们只希望他睡在我们床的另一侧，坐在我们餐桌的对面，做我们生活的另一半。他们是我们的镜子，但不是我们自己。
因此，在我们生活的下一阶段，我会超越自己所感知的瑕疵和不足，庆祝我们创造的生活，享受我们的爱情。
直至死亡把我们分开。
附：译文 My husband and I will be married 10 years this fall, and I think we're ready for some new vows. We've pretty much mastered for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others.Instead of repeating those vows and recommitting to what we've already accomplished, I want us to make some new promises for this stage of our relationship. Here are a few: I will trim my nose hair as often as necessary. I will not pick my nose or scratch my butt in public. I won't bite my nails if you don't pick your toes. I won't mention your belly if you don't mention my gray hair. I will share the blanket. It's true--after more than a decade together, some of our physical habits have become annoying.It's hard for me to remember, but there was a time actually lulled me to sleep,rather than keeping me awake. It isn't just physical habits that can grate on each other's nerves now. Our verbal habits can also be frustrating. For example, my husband is a very funny man. Except when he's not. So, some additional vows: I will only tell jokes I know are funny. If you stop talking to me while I'm reading, I'll stop talking to you while you're watching"Iron Chef." I promise to interrupt you while you're speaking only in case of an actual emergency (whichincludes wanting to know where you've put the chocolate). I won't sing a song unless I know all the words. I'll try to limit conversations that involve yelling from room to room, except when I'm in thebathroom and need more toilet paper, or when I'm in the bedroom and wonder what's for dinner, or when I'm in the TV room and you're playing computer games. As we enter our second decade of marriage, we'll both be in our 40s, instead of our 30s. Some of our charming idiosyncrasies now look more like character flaws. We've both hanged, but not necessarily in the ways either of us might have imagined or hoped. At the same time,there are agreements we've tacitly made, without explicitly acknowledging them.They include: I will say "I was wrong, you were right." I will remind you regularly why you married me and why I married you. I will keep it together when you're falling apart and only fall apart when you're able to hold things together. As we grow older,we hope to mature faster than we age. We learn to love, honor and cherish ourselves. And we try to have and hold onto money better. As our marriages age, it becomes harder than ever to forsake all other distractions(kids, work,the Internet) and pay attention to our partners, who we expect to see beside us on the other side of the bed, the other side of the table, the other side of our lives. They are our mirrors, but they are not us. So, in the next phase of our lives, I will look beyond the flaws and the imperfections and the inadequacies we all feel and celebrate the life my husband and I have created and the love we enjoy. Till death to us part. | 
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