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I think of myself as the happiest person whenever I walk into a room, and most people notice my smile right away. Here are 20 ways you can find yourself as happy as I am. 每当我进入一个房间的时候，我总是认为自己是最幸福的人，大部分的人都会立刻注意到我的微笑。下面是20条习惯，可以让你和我一样幸福。 20个可以让你幸福的习惯 文/荷叶 一．放手 当有人批评你，说你不好时，忘掉它。人类历史上有人说过更坏的话。即使你知道对方是有意的，切记原样接受，了解自己的能力会使自己变得更强大。 二．善良 刻薄，觉得有必要让人当众出丑的人自身缺乏安全感。当你善待别人时，善良会回报在自己身上。 三．视困难为挑战 当你遇到困难时，无论是一个人还是一件事，考虑一下自己将来能从中学到什么。我想腕坎耶·维斯特，也许是尼采说过一句话，“ 杀不死我的东西会使我更强大。” 四．表达感恩 当你告知别人你感谢他们时，他们将来会更乐意帮你。说声谢谢不仅仅是礼貌，这是因果回报。 五．志向远大 最幸福的人是达到了马斯洛需要层次说的最高一层，自我实现。如果你想幸福，就必须要努力奋斗，有所实现，达到自己的人生目标。 六．说别人好话 “存好心，办好事”是一个重要的佛教概念。人的消极性产生于头脑。清除头脑中对别人的消极看法，就会消除头脑中的麻烦，忧虑和恐惧，就不会受到诱惑去制造流言蜚语，说别人坏话，从而给自己带来消极回报。 七．活在当下 是的，回家后，你得洗衣服，清理卫生间。但当你吃芝士汉堡时，只想享受芝士汉堡的美味。这一点适用于其它所有的幸福时刻以及工作，那些小事情可以以后再做。 八．不要与别人相比 一旦开始攀比，你就落入一个自我的陷井，一种追逐世俗，转瞬即逝的现实的贪婪。相反，多考虑一下自己所拥有的东西，哪些能使自己幸福，至少令自己满意。 九．意识到你并不需要别人的批准 只要所做的事能使自己开心，你不需要别人宽恕你的行为。这会使你放手去依自己的信仰行事，这会为你的一举一动注入信心。 十．要诚实 谎言，哪怕是小谎，都意味着你乐意以受骗为回报。当你保持不说谎话时，你的世界将会维持较高水平的完整性。 十一.花时间倾听 开心的人不去打断别人的话，因为她知道想要让别人听自己说话，就得先听别人说话。通过倾听而不是等着插话，你能明白别人的动机，这有助于你们建立密切的关系，同时也有助于了解自己。 十二.接受不能改变的一切 当然，我想长得高点，聪明点，漂亮点。但我做不到。我一意识到做不成美国总统，就明白了我这一生到底想做什么：写作。 十三.每日研读智慧之书的精萃 当然报刊杂志也不错，但历史长河中献身于宗教或哲学的人，是因为他们从神圣的教义中悟出了智慧，这本智慧之书无论是圣经，律法或古兰经经文，都没有关系，读它，会提醒你以前发生过什么，以后将会发生些什么。 十四.每年至少旅行两周 如果是境外，就会更好。唉，出国很贵。每到不同的地方，都要提醒自己这些你不熟悉地方的人们如何生活，到时候你回到自己习惯的生活时，会感到很幸福。 十五.消极情绪来袭时，把握住自己 是的，你可以轻松地读完以上几点，然后说，好了，我明白了。但幸福最难的部分是当消极情绪潜入你脑海时，能够意识到并立刻摆脱它。 十六.穿着得体 只有感觉好，才会真的好，只有看上去好，才会感觉好。个人卫生，仪容仪表，流行服饰，都是影响开心的一部分。你很少看到衣着光鲜的人暗自垂泪。 十七.享受悲伤 约翰济慈说过“在欢乐的殿堂里，忧郁有着至高无上的位置。”换言之，每一次欢乐的背后都有一抹悲伤，在等着阳光普照，同理，每一次痛苦，都会时来运转，让你重拾幸福。因此，当悲伤来袭时，享受它，这不会太久。 十八.吃好 吃什么，成什么。如果整天往肚子里塞满汉堡或火腿，你就可能变得超重，缺乏活力，思路不清晰。与此相反，我们要保证吃足够的水果蔬菜，蛋白质和碳水化合物，还要适量。 十九. 与朋友和家人保持联系 多数情况下，你的家人会无条件地爱你。与他们保持联系非常重要，或者每周打个电话，或者每年看望一次。朋友们会鼓励你，支持你，使你开心。每周要拿出一些时间，与朋友交流。 二十.独处 幸福的人在独处时会感到舒心自在，那是因为他爱自己，非常爱。他一个人呆一整天，会同与别人相处时同样舒心自在，你也该如此。 附；原文 1. Let it go. When someone criticizes you or says something not-so-nice, just forget it. Worse things havebeen uttered in human history. Even when you know the person meant it, remember that you become stronger by accepting them for who they are and knowing yourcapabilities. 2. Be kind. People who are mean and feel the need to put others down are insecure with themselves. But when youare kind to others, kindness returns to you. 3. Think of your problems as challenges. When you come upagainst a difficulty, whether a person or an event, consider what your futureself will have learned from it. I believe it was Kanye West, or maybeNietszche, who said, "What doesn't kill me makes me stronger." 4. Express gratitude. When you let peopleknow that you appreciate them, they are more willing to help you in the future.Saying thank you is more than good manners -- it's karma. 5. Dream big. The happiest personhas reached the highest level of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs --self-actualization. If you want to be happy you must work hard to achievesomething, and strive to attain that life goal. 6. Speak well of others. The Buddhist notion of "right thought, right action" is an important one. It's in themind that negativity starts. By clearing your head of negative ideas of others,you will clear your mind of problems, worries and fears, and you won't betempted to gossip or speak ill and bring that negativity back to you. 7. Be in the now. Yes, you have to doyour laundry and clean the bathroom when you get home, but while you're herenow eating this cheeseburger, just enjoy the cheeseburger. Then apply thislesson to all other moments of pleasure and work -- you can deal with thelittle stuff later. 8. Do not compare yourself to others. As soon as youstart this, you fall into a trap of ego, a grasping at the temporal, fleeting aspects of reality. Instead, think about what you have that makes you happy, orat least satisfied. 9. Realize you don't need others' approval. As long as you dowhat makes you happy, you don't need other people to condone your actions. Thiswill free you to act on what you believe, which will instill confidence intoyour every act. 10. Be honest. Lies, even little ones, imply that you are willing to be lied to in return. But when you keepyour conversation honest, you will maintain a higher level of integrity in yourworld. 11. Take time to listen. The happiest persondoesn't interrupt because she knows that if she wants to be heard, she has tolisten to others. By listening instead of waiting to speak, you can understand what motivates others, which canhelp you build rapport withthem and understand yourself. 12. Accept what can't be changed. Sure, I wish I wastaller, smarter, and better looking. But I'm not. As soon as I realized that Iwasn't going to be President of the U.S.A., I figured out what I didwant to do with my life: write. 13. Read daily selections from a book of wisdom. Magazines andnewspapers are all well and good, but the reason people throughout history havededicated their lives to religion and philosophy is because of the wisdom thesesacred texts hold. It doesn't matter if it's a Bible, Torah or Quran verse,reading these books of wisdom will remind you of what came before and what willcome after you. 14. Travel at least two weeks of the year. It's even better ifit's foreign travel. Alas, getting out of the country can be expensive. Whenyou go somewhere different, to remind yourself of how people live in placesother than those that you're used to, you will be happy to return to what youhave when it's time. 15. Catch yourself before negativity starts. Yeah, it's easy toread the above points and say, okay, I get it. But the hardest part of being happy is realizing when negativity starts to creep into your mind and fromthere, getting rid of it. 16. Dress well. You're only as good as you feel, and you can only feel good if you look good. Personal hygiene, grooming,and fashion enter into this. Rarely will you find someone well-dressed cryingby themselves. 17. Enjoy sadness. John Keats saidthat in the “temple of delight melancholy has her sovran shrine.” In otherwords, at the heart of every joy is a glimmer of sadness waiting to shinethrough. The same goes for sadness -- within every pain is a reversal offortune that will lead you to feel happy again. So when those moments come,enjoy them. They won't last long. 18. Eat well. You are what youeat, so if you're stuffing yourself with cheeseburgers and hot dogs every day,chances are you are overweight and you lack energy and mental clarity. Instead,make sure to eat enough fruit and vegetables, protein and carbohydrates -- and indulge in moderation. 19. Keep in touch with your friends and family. Your family -- inmost cases -- loves you unconditionally. It's important to keep in touch with them, whether it's a weekly phone call or an annual visit. Friends too help toinspire and support happy people. Take time out of your week to communicatewith them. 20. Be alone. The happiest person is comfortable spending time by himself. That's because he loves himself. Alot. He is just as comfortable spending an entire day alone as he is spendingit with someone else. You should be too. | 
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