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四种标志判断他是否就是真爱 荷叶/译 每当想起男友或者当他走进房门的时候，你可能会有特别的感觉。你认为自己找到了另一半？对此你又有多少把握呢？ 重要的是，你如何判断你俩是不是很般配呢？下面有四个标志来判断你正在交往的那个男人是否就是你的终生伴侣。 外貌：这似乎流于表面，非常肤浅。但你要诚实回答下列问题：你觉得这个男人有魅力吗？你能一辈子都与他在一起吗？如果约会时，你只想折磨他，那么在关系进入下一步时，你要认真考虑自己到底想要什么。当涉及到他可以改变的事情时，如果这个男人的个人卫生，体重，穿着打扮不能满足你的要求，在做出任何承诺前，你可以和他谈谈你所在乎的东西。 共同的信仰：这不仅仅是你们的宗教背景。你们二人有没有共同的人生理念，这包括生活方式，理财目标，人生观，和对于人类的感情。如果你的男人有些你不能支持的信仰，这是个严重威胁你们关系的问题。一时还可以将就，但和一个与你基本人生观不同的人生活在一起，最终你会感到很不舒服。你们总是有可能改变，但这很冒险。如果你俩的世界观完全相同，大胆开始吧。 心理成熟：关于心理成熟，并不是所有的人都处于同一水准。帮你疗伤或让你感到开心的交际能力是童年就形成的。你和你的男友的情智可能一时不会改变。如果你俩经常打架，这说明你们其中一人或是两人心理还不成熟。如果他没有同情心，不能妥协，不能控制自己的脾气，使你很烦恼，你需要三思，是否决定和一个心理不成熟的人共度一生。 智力：这因人而异，取决于你是如何判断的。有时女人与愚蠢的男人约会，依然可以非常快乐。有时她们不堪忍受他的愚蠢。我们甚至认为他是你们两人中有头脑的那个。如果你们学术能力评估测试成绩的差异使你们当中有一个人不开心，那与他发展下去将不明智。如果你俩对彼此很满意，无论你俩强强联手，一起猜出周日的填字游戏，还是你得提醒他家人的名字，也许你找到了你的另一半。 附：原文 That feeling you have whenever you think about your boyfriend or when he walks in the door? You think it means you have found "The One." Howexactly can you tell if you're right? More importantly,how can you tell that the two of you really are a good match? Here are four ofthe signs to tell if the guy you're with now should be the guy you're with forever. Looks - It seems totally superficial, but there is going to be a time when you have to be honest: do you find this guy attractive? Can you see yourself living with him for the rest of your life? If you were just tolerating him while you weredating, you may want to get serious about what you really want before you takethe next step. When it comes down to things that he can change -- if this guyis not meeting your standards of personal hygiene, healthy weight, decent dress -- you may want to have aconversation with him about your concerns before you decide it's time for acommitment. Shared Beliefs -It's more than just your religious backgrounds. Do the two of you have the sameideas about life, how to live, financial goals and philosophies, and feelings about humanity. If your guy has beliefs that you just can't get behind, there's a serious problem with your relationship. It may be okay now, but eventuallyyou won't be able to feel comfortable living with someone who doesn't share thesame basic outlook on life as you. There's always a chance that you couldchange, but that's a big risk to take. If the two of you do share all of the same ideas about the world, go for it! Emotional Maturity- Not everyone is on the same level of emotional maturity. The interpersonal skills that you have that help you deal with getting hurt or feeling happy are developed from childhood: both you and your boyfriend have emotionalintelligences that probably aren't going to change at this point. If you fighta lot it could mean one or both of you are not very emotionally mature. If it bothers you that he is not empathic, feeling, able to compromise, or control his temper you need to think twice before you decide you want to spend a lifetime with someone who is emotionally stunted. Intelligence - Thisis going to be different for everyone, depending on how judgmental you are.Sometimes women date dumb guys and can still be perfectly happy. Sometimes theycan't stand how stupid he is. Let's even consider that he might be the one withthe brains in the relationship. If the difference between your SAT scores is something that makes either of you unhappy, then it's probably not a good idea to move forward with him. If the two of you are happy with who you are, whether you can go toe-to-toe on Sunday crossword, or if you have to remind him of his family member's names, you may have found the one.
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