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通往幸福的秘密
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谁都知道金钱买不来幸福……但很多时候，我们的举止却好像如果有更多的金钱，我们就会更幸福。我们习惯于想要更多的钱，虽然我们知道有钱人并不幸福。我们被训练成想要电视上推销给我们的最新的东西，最新的款样。我们想挣更多的钱，认为只有那样才会有幸福生活。
但是这并不能给人们带来幸福。不管我们挣多少钱，银行里有多少存款，我们的服饰多少精美，轿车多么豪华，玩具多少高档，哪一样也不能使我们更幸福一点点。悲哀的是我们总要花上几十年时间去追求财富和奢华，之后才能意识到这一点。
那怎样才能幸福呢？很幸运，有三样东西一分钱也不用花。这是经过调查研究的，几十万人就他们的财产，他们的生活状况以及他们的幸福程度接受了调查。
下面是通向幸福的三条秘密：
1 良好的人际关系。人类需要和他人建立亲密友好的人际关系。良好的互相支持的友谊，稳固的婚姻，家人的关爱，这一切很可能使我们活得更幸福。
行动步骤：今天要和你亲近的人一起度过，亲口告诉他们，他们对你有多重要，倾听他们的回答，加强与他们的关系。
2 积极乐观的思维方法。很显然，我积极倡导积极乐观的思维方法是实现人生目标的最好方法，但结果是这还能带来幸福。乐观和自尊是幸福生活的两大指标。幸福的人感觉被赋予了特权，能够掌控自己的生活，有着积极向上的人生观。
行动步骤：养成积极思维的习惯。事实上，这是你应该养成的最早习惯之一。习惯于停止消极思维而代之以积极的思维。别再说“我不能”而代之以“我能”。这听起来有点老生常谈，但对我很管用，百试百灵。
3 流动。这是近来网上流行的一个概念，这是当我们把注意力集中于眼前的工作或任务时所进入的一个状态。我们如此沉浸于自己的任务以至于失去了时间观念。使工作和闲暇都进入这样一种流动状态几乎毫无疑问会把我们引向幸福。人们最大的愉悦感不是来自于漫无目的的被动接受，而是使自己沉浸于有意识的挑战。
行动步骤：找一份你有浓厚兴趣的工作。严肃地说，这极其重要。找到你有浓厚兴趣的爱好。关掉电视，这与流动状态背道而驰，到户外去，做一件能够真正吸引你的事情。
这就是通往幸福的三个秘密。千万不要浪费哟！
附：原文
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