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完全了解自己
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人一生中与之相处时间最长,打交道最多的是自己,但我们了解最少的也恰恰是自己。
在人生走上坡路时,人们倾向于高估自己。似乎你想要什么就来什么,你大喜过望,会把不请自来的运气和机遇归入自身价值的一部分。当走下坡路时,你又会倾向于低估自己,误把困难和逆境当成自己的无能。人贵有自知之明,远离世俗,独善其身,戴上懦弱的面具生活,这样会阻碍你汲取生活的营养。
彻底了解自己就是对自己获得一个正确的认识,做一个理性的现实主义者,既知道自己的长处,也知道自己的不足。你可能满怀希望地憧憬未来,但一定不要期望过高,因为没有理想是可能完全实现的。你可能会勇敢地面对挑战,但一定要先弄明白你努力的方向。没有比彻底弄懂自己更长的路,没有克服不了的困难,也没有翻越不了的障碍。
彻底了解自己需要自我欣赏。无论你把自己比喻成一棵参天大树,还是一株小草,无论你认为自己是巍巍高山,还是一粒石子,你代表的是自然界的一种生存状态,有自己存在的理由。如果你真诚地钦佩自己,你就会赢得一种真正的自我欣赏感,这会给你自信。只要对自己充满自信,你就会战胜一切困难。
彻底了解自己还需要必要时善待自己。生气时,要善待自己,给它一个发泄口,找一个安静的地方,别让愤怒的火焰灼伤自己;悲伤时,要善待自己,找个朋友倾诉一下,使自己低迷的情绪振作起来;疲劳时,要善待自己,睡个好觉或吃点补药。关爱自己的健康,关爱自己的日常生活。要知道,面对自然万物我们的血肉之躯是不堪一击的。因此,一旦生病,要照顾好自己。只有当你完全知道何时以何种方式善待自己时,你才会有信心有准备地抵御疾病的侵袭。
彻底了解自己就是彻底掌握自己的生活,那样自己的生活才会丰富多彩,多滋多味。
附:原文
In all one's lifetime it is oneself that one spends the most time being with or dealing with. But it is precisely oneself that one has the least understanding of. When you are going upwards in life you tend to overestimate yourself. It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach; luck and opportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they constitute part of your worth. When you are going downhill you tend to underestimate yourself, mistaking difficulties and adversities for your own incompetence.It's likely that you think it wise for yourself to know our place and stay aloof from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice, behind which the flow of sap in your life will be retarded. To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober realist-- aware of both one's strength and shortage. You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure not to expect too much, for ideals can never be fully realized. You may be courageous to meet challenges but it should be clear toyou where to direct your efforts. That's no way so long as you have a perfect knowledge of yourself there won't be difficulties you can't overcome, nor obstacles you can't surmount. To get a thorough understanding of oneself needs self appreciation. Whether you liken yourself toa towering tree or a blade of grass, whether you think you are a high mountain or a small stone, you represent a state of nature that has its own raison deter.If you earnestly admire yourself you'll have a real sense of self-appreciation,which will give you confidence. As soon as you gain full confidence in yourselfyou'll be enabled to fight and overcome any adversity. To get a thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing oneself a favor when it's needed.In time of anger, do yourself a favor by giving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won't be hurt by its flames; in time of sadness, do yourself a favorby sharing it with your friends so as to change a gloomy mood into a cheerful one; in time of tiredness, do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep ortaking some tonic. Show yourself loving concern about your health and daily life. As you are aware,what a person physically has is but a human body that's vulnerable when exposed to the elements. So if you fall ill, it's up to you to take a good care of yourself. Unless you know perfectly well when and how to do yourself a favor,you won't be confident and ready enough to resist the attack of illness. To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one's life. Then one will find one's life full of color and flavor. |