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Did you know thatpeople without friends are more likely to die an early death? It's true. Justask science. 你知道吗？没有朋友的人往往死的早。这是真的。不信，可以向科学求证。
人生中应该有的八种朋友
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要提高你开心长寿的机会，光有一群只能同甘不能共苦的朋友是不够的。你需要形形色色的多才多艺的朋友与你风雨与共，不离不弃。要使自己远离医生，以下八种朋友恰恰是你所需要的。 一.最忠实朋友 有时一个忠实的朋友是你保持清醒所需要的唯一的东西。每人都需要一个理性的朋友无条件地支持你。这类朋友会使你陷入一团糟，他知道你内心深处最隐密的秘密，但还会一如既往地爱你。 二.一个无所畏惧的冒险家 我们所生活的世界很大，有许多地方要看，许多人要见，许多事要经历，然而，我们太多的人循规蹈矩，忘记了好好生活。我们需要一个富于冒险精神的朋友，使我们放开手脚，向我们介绍新观点，新文化，新哲学，新活动。 三.一个不留情面坦诚相待的知己 生活中有些情况我们需要听听严酷的真话。这就是坦诚知己的意义所在。当你两年中第八次回到那个摇摆的朋友面前时，人人都说这很正常，但你坦诚的知己却使你从过度乐观中猛醒，他说：“够了，停止这种分分和和的游戏。你应该得到更好的。”朋友之间理应相互坦诚。如果你发现一个人对你不讲情面，坦诚相待（以积极的方式），留住这个朋友。如今这种人很难得了。 四.一个明智的导师 杰西-杰克逊曾经说过“永远不要俯视一个人，除非你要扶他起来。”如果你的生活中有一个聪明，鼓舞人心又值得敬佩的人在践行这一哲学，你就太幸运了。我们都需要一个人帮我们进步，同时又不会感觉到自己的技不如人。另外，与这种人为伍，会使我们挑战自己，每天完善自己。 生活中的导师不必是同行，也不必和自己有共同的爱好。只要在生活中领先你几步，有足够的智慧和耐心往正确的道上引导你，就行了。任何人都行，同事，一位年龄大的朋友，或是一个岁数大点的邻居，只要你尊敬他，想向他学就行。 五.来自不同文化背景的朋友 谁都不想成为停留在自己生活方式中的人。如果人人都有一个来自不同文化背景的朋友，这世界将会美好得多。一份跨文化的友谊会使人探索自己文化之外的习俗，价值观和传统。有时候人们会采用新的做事方式。 当心，不要仅仅因为一个人来自不同文化，就以他为友。没有人喜欢做象征性的朋友。相反，要敞开心扉，如果你碰巧遇到一个来自不同文化的朋友还谈得来，要一边从个人层面上逐步了解他，一边努力了解他的习俗，价值观和传统。 六.一个完全相反的人 我们人类天生地聚众排外，具有从众心理。如果只与同自己信仰，习俗和价值观相同的人交友，你就多少有点与周围世界脱节，这会给与你世界观不同的人，永久地留下刻板一个印象。 不要经常让自己周围充满志同道合的人，要设法跳出自己的小圈子，与和自己意见相佐的人交友。他们会帮你睁开眼睛，看到不同的风景，你也会学会接受那些并不完全以你的眼光看待世界的人。 七.一个友好的邻居 有许多人不认识自己的邻居。这很不象话，因为一些邻居可能是世上最好且最能帮助你的人。如果你去度假，突然想起忘了锁大门，你可以给你信得过的老邻居打个电话，让他到你家去替你把门锁上。值得依赖，彼此相依的好邻居正濒临绝迹，但这并不意味着你不应该把自己介绍给马路对面的新邻居。 八.一个工作伙伴 你可知道一份全职工作，使你把一半的清醒时间花在工作上？不仅这样，你还会在上班路上花些时间，你会加班加点，心里想着工作，让自己的事业侵占了自己的个人时间。很让人郁闷，不是吗？ 数据表明：越是孤立地工作，就越会感到郁闷。因此，在饮水机旁找个人聊聊天很有意义，这会帮你顺利度过这一周。你把百分之五十清醒的时间花在工作上，你的工作伙伴也一样。你会发现每天午餐时，找个谈得来的人侃侃大山，抱怨一下工作，会比一个人吃过得要轻松得多。 工作伙伴在工作之外不必是你最好的朋友。只需是和你有点谈得来的人就行，如果你们一见如故，非常投缘，总可以在工作之外开始交往。 生活中有一个最忠诚的朋友，一个无所畏惧的朋友，一个不留情面坦诚相待的知己，一个完全相反的朋友，一个友好的邻居，一个工作伙伴，你一定个过上幸福而长寿的生活。 附：原文 To up your chances of living a long, happy life, having a bunch offair-weather buddies won't do the trick. You need a diverse, well-round edentourage that will stick with you through thick and thin. The following eight types of friends are just what you need to keep the doctor away. 1. A Loyal Best Friend Sometimes a loyal best friend is the only thing you need to stay sane.Everyone needs a non-judgmental friend who will support them no matter what.This is the kind of friend who lets you be a hot mess and knows all of your deepest and darkest secrets, but still loves you all the same. 2. A FearlessAdventurer We live in a big world where there are so many places to see, people tomeet, and experiences to be had, yet so many of us are stuck in our own routines and forget to, well, live. We all need an adventurous friend who willpull us out of our shells and introduce us to new ideas, cultures,philosophies, and activities. 3. A Brutally HonestConfidant There's certain situations in life where we need to hear the harsh truth.That's what the brutally honest confidant is for. If you're in a rockyrelationship and everyone's telling you that it's perfectly normal that you'reback with that special someone for the 8th time in the last 2 years, the brutally honest confidant is there to yank your rose-colored glasses off andtell you, “Enough. Stop with all that break-up-and-get-back-together drama. Youdeserve better.” Friends are supposed to be honest with each other. If you find someone who is brutally honest with you (in a constructive way), then hold onto this person! People like that are hard to come by these days. 4. A Wise Mentor Jesse Jackson once said, "Never look down on someone unless you're helping them up." If you have someone smart, inspiring, and admirable inyour life who practices this philosophy, you're extremely lucky. We all need a friend who inspires us to be better people without making us feel inadequate.Plus, being around such a person will challenge us to betterourselves every day. The wise mentor in your life doesn't have to be someone who shares the same occupation or hobbies with you. It's simply someone who's a few steps ahead of you in life and has enough wisdom and patience to guide you in theright direction. It can be anyone -- a colleague, a friend who's beyond their years, or an older neighbor -- as long as you look up to this person and wantto be more like them. 5. A Friend From aDifferent Culture The last thing you want to be described as is someone who's stuck in theirown ways. If everyone had a friend from a different culture, the world would be a much better place. Being in a cross-cultural friendship allows you to explore customs, values, and traditions outside of your own culture. Sometimes youmight even adopt new ways to do things. Be careful; don't befriend someone just because they're from a different culture. No one likes to be a token friend. Instead, keep your mind open, andif you come across someone you click with who just so happens to be from a different culture, make the effort to learn about their customs, values, and traditions while getting to know the person on a personal level. 6. A Polar Opposite We humans are hard-wired to get together in groups and attack outsiders --the human pack mentality, if you will. If you only develop friendships withothers who follow the same beliefs, customs, and values as you do, chances areyou're somewhat detached from the rest of the world, and you're more likely to perpetuate stereotypes on anyone who holds a different world view from you. Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people,try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you'll learnto accept people who don't see the world exactly the way you see it. 7. A Friendly Neighbor These days, a lot of people don't know their own neighbors. It's a shame,because some neighbors can be the nicest and most helpful people ever. If you're on a vacation, and you suddenly realize that you forgot to lock the front door, you can call up your trusty old neighbor and ask them to head overto your house and lock it for you. Nice dependable neighbors who have eachother's backs are a dying breed, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't introduce yourself to the new neighbors across the street! 8. A Work Pal Did you know that with a full-time job, you spend at least 50% of your waking hours at work? Not only that, but you spend some more time commuting to work, thinking about work, working overtime, and furthering your career on yourpersonal time. Depressing, isn't it? Statistics show that the more isolated you are at work, the more depressedyou get. That's why it makes sense to get a work pal to chat with at the watercooler and to help you get through the week. You spend 50% of your waking hours at work, and so does your work pal. You'll find it much easier to shoot thebreeze and complain about work with someone who can relate to you than eatinglunch alone every day. Your work pal doesn't have to be your best friend outside of work. They just need to be someone you click with on some level, and if you two hit it off exceptionally well, you can always start hanging out with them outside of theoffice. With a loyal best friend, a fearless adventurer, a brutally honest confidant, a wise mentor, a friend from a different culture, a polar opposite,a friendly neighbor, and a work pal in your life, you're bound to live a long and happy life! | 
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