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别再相信的生活箴言
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八 我们出了问题
我们被自身不足和自己一钱不值的感觉所困扰，直到将来有一天我们变得憔悴不堪，腰缠万贯，自信满满，备受瞩目，才会自我接纳，自我爱戴。 你自身就很完美。即使在你努力完善自己的过程中，也是完美的。正如佛所说：“我们本身都很圆满，尽管人人都需要一点修行。”
九 别人对我们的看法很重要
因为担心别人对我们的看法而失去了太多的精力，力量和内心平和。 事实是我们不可能确切地知道别人对我们的看法，因此，当你充满自我怀疑和恐惧时，请记住那只是在虚构。
十 积怨是生活的重要组成部分
当我们感觉有人冤枉我们时，就会牢牢记住，数周甚至数年不忘。我们意识不到这是把自己拘为人质，而不仅仅是那些伤害我们的人。 佛曾经说：“不忘仇恨犹如手握炭火，随手准备丢到别人身上，烫伤的却是自己。” 把宽恕作为自己的座右铭，你就会感觉无比的自由和轻松。
十一 我们看到的是事物的本相
我们对世界的体验很大程度上受我们的信仰以及过去的经历所影响。 我们的意识会程序化地寻找一些信息，而我们的潜意识会选择这些信息，它会识别我们的主要信仰，替换一些不能为之服务的事实。
十二 只有日出时分坐在垫子上，才能冥想
你在日常生活中，随时可以留心所有的事物进入冥想状态。 暂停一下，感知你的身体作用于座位的重量，织物作用于你皮肤的感觉，以及空气在你脸上的轻微流动。 做几次深呼吸，全身放松。留心一下你全身的感觉，只做观察，不做任何判断。
十三 我们失去了所付出的东西
施和受实际上是一回事。当你不附带任何条件向别人施予时，无论是物质上的礼物，还是一句赞美或者是你的时间，你会像接受者一样得以滋养。 你不仅能体验到满足和愉悦的感觉，你的业力还会带来更多的祝福和礼物，来回报你的生活。
十四 我们需要从逻辑上弄明白每一件事
我们被教会要相信自己的头脑，而不是直觉或者内在声音的指导。 当我们面对问题或事情含混不清时，要学会回归内心，相信灵魂提供的智慧。它常常以直觉的形式出现，或是一个偶然的标记，或是灵光一闪，瞬间顿悟。
十五 我们需要更现实一点 许多人认为日常的幸福和快乐是个不切实际的目标，我们应该更现实一点。 幸福是我们此生的终极目标，它既有价值，又可实现。 理解你的目标，就是用最祟高最美好的语言把它描述出来。把幸福放在第一位，不要有任何内疚。
附：原文
There is something wrong with us.
We are plagued by feelings of inadequateness and worthlessness, postponing self-acceptance and self-love until a day in the future when we're thinner, wealthier, more confident and more popular.
You are perfect and complete exactly as you are. Even when you are striving to improve and grow, you are complete. As the Buddhist saying goes, "We are all perfect as we are, and we could all use a little work."
It matters what other people think of us.
We give away so much of our energy, power and inner peace by worrying about what others think of us.
The truth is we can't ever know for certain what other people are thinking about us. So when your ego starts to fill you with doubt and fear, remember it's a fictional story.
Holding grudges is a natural part of life.
When we feel that someone has "wronged" us, we cling to the memory and carry it around with us for weeks or sometimes years. What we fail to realize is that we are holding ourselves hostage, not just the perceived wrong-doer.
The Buddha once said, "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
Make forgiveness your new motto and see how much freer and lighter your soul feels.
We see things how they really are.
How we experience the world is heavily influenced by our beliefs and past experiences.
Our subconscious mind chooses pieces of information to serve to our conscious mind based on what we've programmed it to look for. Identify your dominant beliefs and replace the ones that aren't serving you.
Meditation is something people do on a cushion at sunrise.
You can meditate and be mindful all throughout the day as you go about your life.
Pause and feel the weight of your body in your seat, the feeling of the fabric against your skin, and the slight sensation of the air on your face.
Take a few deep breaths and let your whole being relax. Scan your body up and down for sensations, simply observing, without making any judgements.
When we give something, we lose something.
Giving and receiving are one in truth. When you give to someone with no strings attached -- whether it be a physical gift, a compliment or your time -- you are nourished as well as the receiver.
Not only do you experience sensations of satisfaction and joy, but your karma will bring more blessings and gifts back into your life.
We have to logically figure everything out.
We've been taught to trust our minds but not our intuition or inner voice of guidance.
When you're grappling with a problem or lacking clarity, learn to lean into your soul and trust the wisdom it provides to you -- often in the form of a gut feeling, serendipitous sign or a spontaneous "aha!" moment.
We need to be more realistic.
Many people think that daily happiness and joy is an unrealistic goal, and we should be more realistic.
Happiness is THE ultimate goal of our lives, and it is both worthwhile and attainable.
Understand your purpose is to blossom into the highest, happiest version of you and let go of any guilt you feel for making your happiness a priority. | 
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