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成功的夫妻关系
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一对恩爱夫妻婚后十一年才诞育一子，视为掌上明珠。转眼男孩长到两岁，一天早上，丈夫看到一个打开的药瓶。他上班要迟到了，因此，叮嘱妻子盖好盖子，把药瓶放进橱柜。此时，妻子正在厨房里忙，她把这件事忘得干干净净。孩子看到药瓶，便过去玩，他被药水的颜色也吸引，一饮而下。原来这是一种毒性很大的药，只能由成人服用，而且剂量要小。当孩子倒下时，母亲急忙把他送到医院，但不治而亡。这位母亲吓呆了，不知如何面对自己的丈夫。当伤心欲绝的丈夫来到医院，看到孩子的尸体时，他看着妻子，只说了四个字。
问题：1 这四个字是什么？ 2 这个故事的寓意是什么？
答：丈夫说：“我爱你，亲。”丈夫完全出乎意料的反应叫前摄行为（也就是我们所说的由人转境，而不是被外界事物牵着走。）孩子已死，不能复生，再责难母亲已毫无意义。况且，如果自己花点时间，把药瓶收走，这一切也不会发生。这不是任何人的过错。妻子也失去了自己唯一的孩子。此刻，她最需要的是丈夫的安慰和同情，这正是他所给予的。如果人人都能从这个角度看待生活，世上将会减少许多烦恼。放下所有的羡慕、嫉妒、不宽容、自私和恐惧，你会发现情况没有你想象的那样难。成功的夫妻关系需要多次爱上同一个人。
附：原文 A Successful Relationship A boy was born to a couple after 11 years of marriage.They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eye. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open.He was late for work so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot about the matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and fascinatedby its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him tothe hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.
QUESTIONS:
What were the four words? What is the implication of this story?
ANSWER:
The husband just said, “I Love You Darling.” The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiving attitude, selfishness, and fears.And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think. “A successful relationship requires falling in love many times — with the same person.”
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