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让人充满幸福的蓝丝带
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纽约的一位老师决定奖励每一名高三学生，告诉他们每人所发挥的作用。这个方法是加州一个叫Helice Bridges的人发现的，她每次叫一个学生到前面来。首先告诉他们对老师和班级的影响，再颁发给每一个人一条蓝丝带，上面印着“与众不同奖”。
后来，老师决定做项专题调查，看看赏识会对一个社区产生什么影响。她给每个学生三条丝带，指导他们走出去，传播这种认可仪式。接下来他们追踪结果，一周后向班里报告，把丝带都发给了谁。
班上一名学生来到附近一家公司，把丝带发给了一名实习经理，挂在他衬衫上，感谢他帮自己规划了人生。接着，他又给了这位经理两条丝带，说：“我们班正在做一项关于赏识的专题调查，请你走出去，找一个值得表扬的人，发给他这条丝带，然后再另外给他一条，让他发给另外一个人，使这种仪式传下去。然后，请回来向我汇报经过。”
那一天，实习经理去见了老板，这位老板以牢骚满腹见称。他请老板坐下，告诉老板他是一位创意天才，自己深感钦佩。老板似乎有点吃惊。实习经理问老板是否愿意接受蓝丝带这个礼物，并允许自己给他佩戴上。一脸吃惊的老板说：“当然可以。”
实习经理取出丝带，把它戴在了老板的夹克上，心脏偏上一点。他一边递给老板另外一条丝带，一边说：“请帮我个忙好吗？请拿上这条丝带，把它发给另一个人。给我这条丝带的男孩说他们班在做一项调查，我们想使这个仪式传下去，看看它能对人们产生什么样的影响。”
那天晚上，老板回到家，来到十四岁男孩身边，让他坐好，说：“今天发生了一件非常不可思议的事。我正在办公室，一个实习经理走进来，告诉我他钦佩我，并因为我是创意天才发给了我这条丝带。设想一下，他认为我是创意天才。然后把这条上有“与众不同奖”的蓝丝带挂在了我的夹克上，在心脏上方。他又给了我一条丝带，让我把它发给别人。我开车回家时，一直在想把这条丝带给谁呢？我想到了你。我想把它发给你。
“我的日程表总是安排的很满，回到家时，对你的关注不够。有时我还朝你大喊大叫，嫌你考试成绩不好，怪你把卧室弄得一团糟，但今晚，我只想坐在这儿，让你知道你对我有多重要。除了你妈妈，你是我生活中最重要的人。你很棒，儿子，我爱你！”
吃惊的男孩开始啜泣，一发而不可收。他浑身颤抖，抬头看着父亲，泪眼迷离，说：“我正计划明天自杀呢，爸爸，我一直认为你并不爱我。现在看来没此必要了。”
附：原文
A teacher in New York decided to honor each of her seniors in high school by telling them the difference they each made. Using a process developed by Helice Bridges of Del Mar, California, she called each student to the front of the class, one at a time. First she told them how the student made a difference to her and the class. Then she presented each of them with a blue ribbon imprinted with gold letters which read, "Who I Am Makes a Difference." Afterwards the teacher decided to do a class project to see what kind of impact recognition would have on a community. She gave each of the students three more ribbons and instructed them to go out and spread his acknowledgment ceremony. Then they were to follow up on the results, see who honored whom and report back to the class in about a week. One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby company and honored him for helping him with his career planning. He gave him a blue ribbon and put it on his shirt. Then he gave him two extra ribbons, and said, "We're doing a class project on recognition, and we'd like you to go out, find somebody to honor, give them a blue ribbon, then give them the extra blue ribbon so they can acknowledge a third person to keep this acknowledgment ceremony going. Then please report back to me and tell me what happened." Later that day the junior executive went in to see his boss, who had been noted, by the way, as being kind of a grouchy fellow. He sat his boss down and he told him that he deeply admired him for being a creative genius. The boss seemed very surprised. The junior executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he give him permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, "Well, sure." The junior executive took the blue ribbon and placed it right on his boss's jacket above his heart. As he gave him the last extra ribbon, he said, "Would you do me a favor? Would you take this extra ribbon and pass it on by honoring somebody else? The young boy who first gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school and we want to keep this recognition ceremony going and find out how it affects people." That night the boss came home to his 14-year-old son and sat him down. He said, "The most incredible thing happened to me today. I was in my office and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired me and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius. Imagine. He thinks I'm a creative genius. Then he put this blue ribbon that says 'Who I Am Makes A Difference' on my jacket above my heart. He gave me an extra ribbon and asked me to find somebody else to honor. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would like to honor with this ribbon and I thought about you. I want to honor you. "My days are really hectic and when I come home I don't pay a lot of attention to you. Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school and for your bedroom being a mess, but somehow tonight, I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to me. Besides your mother, you are the most important person in my life. You're a great kid and I love you!" The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn't stop crying. His whole body shook. He looked up at his father and said through his tears, "I was planning on committing suicide tomorrow, Dad, because I didn't think you loved me. Now I don't need to." | 
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