【赫临译笔】真爱零期待

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真爱零期待

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       我曾经有过一个关系非常密切的朋友。一次，我俩坐在游泳池边，她手里捧着点水，举到我眼前，说了下面的话：

       仔细看我手心里的水。它代表爱。只要你体谅地张开手掌，允许它留下来，它会永远停留在你手里。然而，如果你试图拥有它，企图把它抓在手指间，它就会从它能找到的第一个指缝中溢出。这是相爱的人所犯的最大的错误……他们试图拥有爱，他们要求，他们期待……正如水从你的手掌上流走一样，爱会被收回。

        因为爱应该是自由的，你改变不了它的本质。

        如果你有自己爱的人，给他们自由。给予而不期待，建议而不命令，请求而不要求。这听起来简单，但要真正践行却需要一辈子时间。这是真爱的秘诀。要真正躬行这一经验，你必须从所爱的人身上一无所求，并付出无条件的关爱。

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I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this:

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this:

You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love. As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers around it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love… They try to posses it, they demand, they expect… and just like the water spilling out of your hand, Love will retrieve from you.

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.

If you have people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true Love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.

丛中笑

真爱就应当“给予而不期待，建议而不命令，请求而不要求。”

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丛中笑 发表于 2013-8-27 11:31
真爱就应当“给予而不期待，建议而不命令，请求而不要求。”

丛中笑

ヮ成熟、羙° 发表于 2013-8-27 12:45

老牛

欣赏。

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老牛 发表于 2013-8-27 18:39
欣赏。

谢牛哥鼓励，问候牛哥。