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选择合适伴侣的几条建议 荷叶/译 有则谚语说：物以类聚，人以群分。在有些情况下这是对的，但一般说来，两个人需要有共同兴趣。不管是一起玩电子游戏，还是一起骑马，都没有关系。你只需确信至少有两件事情你想和那个人一起做。这可能在夫妻未来的共同生活中起着重要作用。
这是另一个关键点。两个谈不到一起的人根本无法生活在一起。短时间在一起，可能还行，但长时间的伴侣关系，肯定不行。两个人必须能够分享彼此的感受（幸福，好恶，愤怒等）。我再重复一次：交流是长久而幸福婚姻的基础。 这只是几条建议，决定由你来做。做你自己，要积极向上，明确自己想要什么，不想要什么，最后选择一个和自己谈得来，且有共同兴趣的人。
如果你真想选择合适的伴侣，这一步很重要。有些人到天涯海角去寻找自己心灵的伴侣，却空手而归。失败的其中一个原因是这个单身的人没有问问自己。因此，在恋爱之前，在选择合适的男人或女孩结婚之前，先问问自己这些真正的问题：你是谁？你想要些什么？你想从自己的伴侣身上得到些什么？你最喜欢什么？这些小问题似乎微不足道，但却非常重要。只有在向自己回答完这些问题以后，你才能界定自己是什么人，自己真正想要些什么。
了解自己以后，你现在可能会改变想法。下一个吸引你未来妻子的关键是积极向上。这样，你就会活力四射，人们就会自动 地拜访你，依赖你，围绕在你身边。别担心这是形而上学。保持微笑，不是盲目乐观，而是接受现实。你就是你，漂亮，有价值。这两步很有必要。这一切取决于态度。
恋爱没有公式。你可能已经知道了你要约会的男人或女孩的类型了，那是正确的。你找到了自己的所爱，仅此而已。如果你还没有明确自己想要什么类型的男人或女孩，不必担心。这需要耐心，要靠自己单独去发现。这个人可能不是你一直期待的，但如果有爱，交流就会开始。 附：原文 Common interest The proverb says that birds ofthe feather lock together. This may be true in some cases but generally speaking, the two individuals need a common interest. It may be playing video games or horse riding. It doesn't matter; you just have to be sure that thereis, at least, two things that you like to do with the other person. This willplay a big role in the couple's future life together. Can you communicate to each other? This is another key point. Two persons who cannot talk to each other just cannot live together. For a period of time, it can be possible but for a long-term relationship, it does not work.The two peoples have to share their feelings (happiness, likes and dislikes,anger, etc.) to each one other. And once again, we repeat it: communication isthe basis of a long-term and happy marriage. These are just few tips but the decision is yours. Be who you are, be positive, define what you want and whatyou do not want and finally choose someone that you can talk with and who has a common interest with you. Know yourself This step is very important if you really want to choose the right partner. You have to know yourself. Somepeople are searching in all corners of the earth for their soulmate but comeback in vain. One of the reasons of that failure is that the bachelor did notask himself. So the, before loving someone, before making your choice on theright guy or girl to marry, start by asking yourself the real questions: whoare you? What do you want? What are you expecting from your partner? What doyou like most? All these little questions may seem tiny but are very important.It is after answering these questions to yourself that you can start defining who you are and what you really want. Bepositive and keep smiling After knowing yourself, you can now begin to change your mind. The next key for alluring your future wife orhusband is being positive. By being positive, people will automatically call onyou, run to you and would like to by your side because of the energy you are spreading all around you. Don't worry, it's metaphysical. Keep smiling, not in blissful ignorance but the acceptation of the reality: that you are what you are, good-looking and valuable. These two steps are more than essential. It is all in the attitude. What doyou want? There is no formula in love. Youmay already know the type of guy/girl you would like to date and that is correct. You find your love and that is all. If you have not yet defined clearly what kind of person you want to be your husband or wife, do not worry.These are things that have to be discovered solely and patiently. The person may not be what you have been expecting, but if there is love, communication can begin. | 
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